No More Shame! It’s Time to Pursue Your Destiny!

Admin • December 21, 2016

No More Shame! It’s Time to Pursue Your Destiny!

Shame is defined as a “painful feeling arising from the consciousness of something dishonorable… (Dictionary.com, 2016).”  When someone is covered in shame, they abhor themselves, and speak negatively about their performance. They count themselves out because of what they’ve done and feel like there’s nothing left to their lives.  Shame is self-defeat , and we feed it the fuel it needs to hold us back from pursuing our destiny.

Can you picture an infant/toddler learning how to walk? How many times can you see him/her falling and trying to get back up again? Sometimes, you’ll see them cry and even get frustrated because they keep falling and it seems like they’ll never walk. Well, just like this example, we all fall down in life. However, that does not mean that we are to live our lives with our heads down in humiliation and shame.  Mistakes are a part of life. Hence, we are wasting precious time living our lives in shame and we need to get back up and begin pursuing our destiny!

I get it; sometimes, we’ve pulled a blunder and really messed up horribly. However, what is sitting around reminiscing about the memory of the past event while sulking in shame going to do for you today? Is it going to contribute to anything you are producing today? Is it going to benefit anyone? I think not .

Now, I want to encourage you with pointers for eliminating shame:

  1. Forgive Yourself
    • a. Okay, you’re guilty as charged. However, you were never promised to do everything right, and life surely didn’t promise you a bed of roses.  You are prone to making mistakes and falling as you pursue your destiny. This does not mean that your mistake is the end of you; it simply is revealing what you are made of and has provided a learning opportunity for you.
  2. Stop feeding the Memory and the Feelings
    • a. If you continue to feed the memory, you will accomplish nothing good for yourself or others. In addition, this only contributes to stress,self-pity and depression. In order to overcome shame, you MUST stop travelling down memory lane on your mistakes and regret. You are a better person for getting through what you’ve had to endure, and you’ve learned from it. Now, move forward and focus on how you can contribute to making the world a better place.
  3. Remind Yourself that Nobody’s Perfect
    • a. We are pressured sometimes in society to feel like we have to fit the “American Dream” standard in every area of our lives, and if we fall off of our path towards this, we are outcasts and should chalk up our efforts as vanity. Well, I’m here to remind you that nobody is perfect and everyone has endured shame some time in their lives. However, look at the various people who are in the limelight that are successful, i.e. Bill Gates, Oprah, etc….do you think they’ve been exempt from shame? Of course not, yet, they continue to make a difference in society. If you continue to beat yourself up for falling short and making mistakes, you will only delay your progress. Love yourself again, and put down the shame so you can move forward along with others!
  4. Begin Looking Ahead for Opportunities to Succeed Past the Shame
    • a. The word of focus is now: ADVANCE ! It’s time for you to take off your cloak of shame and advance! Begin planning ahead! Start networking again! Dig out your dreams and ideas and find your spark again! You are still on the earth for a purpose, so it’s time for you to find out that purpose as you land various opportunities. Go forward and succeed past your shame ! Remember, everyday is filled with new mercy and opportunity, so find your mercy and opportunities as you put down your shame!
  5. Get Back Up Again!
    • a. There’s a song that says “If at first you don’t succeed, dust yourself off and try again!”  This is how you defeat shame. Simply, get back up and try again! You cannot do anything about failed efforts and shameful moments. However, you can work towards honor and success. You don’t have to remain in a puddle of shame, sorrow and regret. We need you to get back up and do something great for society! Who knows what will come out of you giving it one more shot? Don’t take your future efforts for granted because anything can happen!

Well, I hope you were able to find some encouragement and direction regarding overcoming shame and moving forward. If you want more information, feel free to read  the 4 th Volume my book series “How to Overcome Obstacles From Your Past” for more tips and strategies (Copy this link into your url to order now!    http://india-white.com/books/ ).   Remember, the best is yet to come for you, so it’s time for you to finally own your future and say, “ NO MORE SHAME! ” Good luck and I wish you the best as you move forward in success!

By India White February 9, 2026
Coming Full Circle: Returning to Sarasota with Gratitude and G.R.I.T. I am filled with gratitude and emotion as I prepare to return to Sarasota; not just as a speaker, but as someone whose life was forever changed by the generosity, vision, and grit of this community. Many years ago, I stood on the other side of opportunity as a formerly homeless teen, supported by scholarships made possible by leaders and organizations—many of whom will be in the room when I return. Those investments were not just financial; they were votes of confidence. They said, “We see you. We believe in your future.” And that belief changed everything. To now come back and say thank you; not in words alone, but through purpose-driven work—is truly humbling. Honoring a Legacy of Advocacy and Impact This moment is especially meaningful as we continue the legacy of Rep. Detert, a tireless advocate for students, education, and formerly homeless youth like myself. Her leadership embodied what it means to pair policy with compassion and action with accountability. She didn’t just talk about equity—she fought for it. That legacy lives on in the leaders, educators, and community members who refuse to let circumstance define a child’s future. The G.R.I.T. of This Organization What stands out most about this organization and its leaders is their impeccable G.R.I.T.**—growth mindset, resilience, self-efficacy, and time invested wisely in people. This is not performative work. This is long-haul, legacy-building leadership. You don’t just open doors—you walk alongside young people until they’re strong enough to run through them. A Personal Thank You Returning to Sarasota is deeply personal. It is a reminder that when communities choose to invest in potential, the ripple effects last generations. I am living proof that grit grows when someone believes in you long enough to help you believe in yourself. Thank you for sowing seeds years ago. Thank you for continuing the work. And thank you for allowing me to return—not just to speak, but to honor a legacy that helped shape my life. This is full circle. And we’re just getting started. 💙
By India White February 9, 2026
Grit Meets AI: Reflections from the Florida Distance Learning Association Conference This past week, I had the absolute pleasure of presenting at the Florida Distance Learning Association Conference, and I’m still energized by the conversations, questions, and passion I witnessed from professors and K–12 educators across the state and beyond. My session focused on G.R.I.T. and Artificial Intelligence in the math space (Grades K–12); and more importantly, how we can responsibly and intentionally use AI to strengthen learning rather than replace good teaching. G.R.I.T. + AI = Powerful Instruction During the session, I shared how my G.R.I.T. framework, Growth Mindset, Resilience, Self-Efficacy, and Time Management, can serve as a guardrail for AI integration in mathematics. AI is not here to do the thinking for* students; it’s here to help students think better. We explored how AI can: * Support productive struggle rather than shortcut it * Differentiate instruction while maintaining high cognitive demand * Build student confidence through feedback and reflection * Help teachers reclaim time without sacrificing rigor From elementary number sense to secondary algebra and beyond, AI—when paired with grit—becomes a powerful ally in equity-centered math instruction. A Call to Professors and Teachers Whether you teach future educators at the university level or students in a K–12 classroom, my encouragement is this: don’t fear AI—frame it. When grounded in pedagogy, purpose, and perseverance, AI can help us close gaps instead of widening them. If you’re preparing teachers, now is the time to model what ethical, effective, and gritty AI use** looks like in practice. Let’s Stay Connected If this message resonates with you, I invite you to continue the work with me: * 📘 Explore my books and G.R.I.T. resources designed for educators and leaders * 🎤 Book me to speak or lead professional learning for your school, district, or conference * 🌐 Visit my website for tools, courses, and upcoming events Together, we can ensure that innovation never outpaces intention—and that grit remains at the heart of learning in every classroom, whether in person or online. Let’s get gritty. Let’s get intentional. And let’s lead the future of math education—wisely and boldly. 💪📊🤖
By India White February 6, 2026
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By India White February 6, 2026
February Energy, Connection, and Celebration—Our Newsletter Is Live! 🎉 I’m so excited to share our February Newsletter, and whew—what a month it has already been! February has been full of learning, laughter, inspiration, and powerful connections, all while we celebrate Black History Month and continue the work of building equity and excellence in education. One of the biggest highlights this month was presenting aUtah Council of Teachers of Mathematics (UCTM)**. Connecting with educators in person in Utah was such a joy. The energy in the rooms, the thoughtful questions, the shared commitment to students—it reminded me why I love this work so much. Teachers showed up curious, gritty, and ready to grow, and I left feeling deeply encouraged. At the same time, I had the opportunity to connect with educators online through Florida Distance Learning Association (FDLA), and let me tell you—virtual spaces can be just as powerful! Engaging with teachers across distances, sharing ideas, and learning together in real time was an absolute blast. Whether in Utah or online, the common thread was clear: educators are hungry for tools that help students thrive. And February isn’t slowing down yet! I’m counting down the days as I prepare to serve as a keynote speaker for the Junior League of Sarasota at the end of the month. I’m truly honored and excited to share space with leaders who are committed to impact, service, and community transformation. This month’s newsletter captures all of that momentum—where I’ve been, what’s coming next, and how we can stay connected. If you haven’t checked it out yet, I invite you to take a look, share it, and reach out. Let’s collaborate, dream big, and keep building together. February is reminding me that connection fuels purpose—and I’m grateful for every educator, leader, and partner walking this journey with me. Let’s keep celebrating, learning, and getting gritty—together. 💛✨
By India White January 29, 2026
🌟 What an ABSOLUTELY PHENOMENAL time at UCTM presenting on grit games! 🎉 The educators in Utah are truly AMAZING! I feel so blessed to share insights on grit and connect with new friends—cheering each other on to get pumped up again! 💪✨ Had a hilarious time trying to throw hoops with Dan (I only made ONE shot—let’s just say my accuracy needs some work! 😂🏀). It was fantastic to connect with such inspiring friends and leaders in the math community, sharing exciting updates that Savvas has for all the math teachers out there! 📚🔍 BIG shoutout to the UCTM board, Jackie, the Savvas team, and all the incredible Utah educators! Thanks for a blast of a time! 🚀🙌 #GritAndGames #UpliftEducators #MathMagic #ConnectAndInspire #SavvasUpdates #FunInEducation ✨❤️ (I don’t own music copyright)
By India White January 28, 2026
I am incredibly grateful for the opportunity to speak at UCTM 2026. The energy in the rooms was powerful, and several sessions were filled with educators eager to grow, reflect, and strengthen their practice—especially during my session on building gritty thinking in the classroom. Experiences like this remind me why this work matters so deeply. Teachers came ready to engage in meaningful conversations about productive struggle, perseverance, and how to move beyond surface-level engagement into true student thinking. One of the highlights was hearing how excited educators were about the new Savvas math books and the way these resources support conceptual understanding, collaboration, and confidence for learners at all levels. When curriculum, instruction, and mindset align, we truly begin to bridge the gap for students. At the heart of these conversations was the powerful connection between Thinking Classrooms and my G.R.I.T. Framework—Growth Mindset, Resilience, Self-Efficacy, and Time Management. Together, they create learning environments where students don’t just solve problems, they learn how to persist, reflect, and believe in themselves. Building grit starts with a growth mindset. In a thinking classroom, struggle is not a setback—it’s evidence of learning. Teachers can normalize this by celebrating multiple strategies, modeling mistakes, and using language that reframes being “stuck” as part of the thinking process. When students understand that effort and revision are expected, they engage more deeply and take greater ownership of their learning. Resilience grows through collaboration. Thinking classrooms thrive when students work together, share ideas, and wrestle with concepts as a team. Random grouping, structured roles, and intentional math discourse help students learn that perseverance is strengthened in community. When learners support one another, they build confidence and stamina to tackle challenging tasks. Self-efficacy develops when student thinking is valued. Using vertical non-permanent surfaces like whiteboards lowers the fear of making mistakes and encourages risk-taking. Asking students to explain their reasoning and highlighting their ideas—whether complete or still developing—signals that their thinking matters. Over time, students begin to see themselves as capable mathematicians. Time management is another critical component of grit. Teachers can support this by breaking tasks into phases, using visual timers, and guiding students to reflect on how they used their time. These habits help students learn to pace themselves, stay focused, and persist through complex problems—skills that extend far beyond the math classroom. The questions we ask also shape gritty thinking. Instead of rescuing students, we can ask questions that prompt reflection and strategy: What do you already know? What have you tried so far? What could you try next? These questions keep students engaged in the process and strengthen their independence as thinkers. Finally, reflection brings it all together. Ending lessons with opportunities for students to reflect on effort, strategies, and moments of perseverance reinforces that grit is just as important as correctness. When we celebrate persistence as much as achievement, students learn that growth happens over time. UCTM 2026 was a powerful reminder that educators everywhere are committed to creating classrooms where students feel supported, challenged, and empowered. I am grateful for every teacher who showed up ready to learn, collaborate, and push their thinking. Let’s stay gritty, keep learning together, and continue bridging the gap so every learner has the opportunity to thrive.
By India White January 23, 2026
🎉 Exciting news, teachers! 🎓✨ I’m gearing up for an amazing trip to UCTM, and I want YOU to join the fun! Don’t forget to check out my latest video where I reveal some fantastic door prizes that could be yours! 🎁🙌 Let’s connect, learn, and make unforgettable memories together. Click the link and find out how you can win! 🚀💼 👉✨ #UCTM2026 #TeachersRock #drindiawhite #nabse @#foryou (I don’t own copyright to music ) Let’s make this an event to remember! 🙏🎉
By India White January 18, 2026
It’s Official! The 60-Day Weight Loss & G.R.I.T. Discipline Reset Has Launched 🎉 I’m excited to officially announce the launch of my newest transformational experience—the 60-Day Weight Loss & G.R.I.T. Discipline Reset! This course has been thoughtfully designed for individuals who are ready to stop starting over and finally build the discipline, consistency, and mindset needed to see lasting results. Led by Dr. India White, this 8-week online course goes beyond traditional weight loss programs. It focuses on sustainable change through my proven G.R.I.T. Framework: Growth Mindset, Resilience, Self-Efficacy, and Time Management. This isn’t about extremes or quick fixes—it’s about building habits that fit real life and last well beyond 60 days. What’s Included Participants receive access to: * An introductory video to reset your mindset and set clear expectations * Eight weekly modules that build discipline step by step * A conclusion video to help you transition from a reset to a lifestyle Each week is intentionally structured to help you strengthen both your body and mind, so progress doesn’t disappear once motivation fades. Why This Course Works So many weight loss programs focus only on what to eat or how to exercise—but they ignore the mental discipline required to stay consistent. This course fills that gap. You’ll learn how to: * Stay resilient during setbacks * Manage your time realistically * Build confidence through small, sustainable wins * Create routines that work even on busy days To deepen the experience, I highly encourage participants to pair the course with the 60-Day Weight Loss G.R.I.T. Workbook, available on Amazon. The workbook provides daily reflections, habit tracking, and accountability tools that align with each week of the course. Who This Course Is For This course is perfect for: * Individuals ready to lose weight with structure and purpose * Busy professionals, educators, leaders, and entrepreneurs * Fitness trainers and wellness professionals * Anyone seeking discipline, clarity, and long-term results Enroll Today If you’ve been waiting for the right time to recommit to your health, this is it. The 60-Day Weight Loss & G.R.I.T. Discipline Reset course is now live and ready for you. 👉 Click the link to purchase and enroll today 👉 Start your 60-day reset 👉 Build discipline that lasts a lifetime Your healthiest, most disciplined self is within reach—and G.R.I.T. is the bridge to get you there.
January 15, 2026
From Homelessness to Hope: Moving from Surviving to Thriving at Resilient Beyond Measure Serving as a keynote speaker at the Resilient Beyond Measure Conference was not only fun, it was deeply meaningful. The room was filled with leaders, educators, and purpose-driven individuals who were hungry for more—more clarity, more impact, and more hope. That collective energy reminded me why I continue to show up and share my story. During my keynote, I spoke candidly about my journey—one that did not begin on a stage, in a boardroom, or with titles behind my name. I shared how I once experienced homelessness, uncertainty, and moments where survival was the only goal. There were seasons when simply making it through the day felt like the win. Yet, through grit, faith, discipline, and relentless perseverance, that season did not define my destination. Today, by God’s grace and years of intentional work, I now serve as a math textbook author, educator, national speaker, and entrepreneur, helping impact millions of students, teachers, leaders, and organizations across the nation. My story is living proof that where you start does not dictate where you finish. At the heart of my keynote was a bold challenge: we must stop normalizing survival mode. Survival is reactive. Thriving is intentional. I shared my G.R.I.T. framework, which continues to be the foundation of my work and message: Growth Mindset — shifting from “I can’t” to “I’m learning” Resilience — developing the stamina to rise again and again Self-Efficacy — believing deeply that you are capable and equipped Time Management — aligning time with purpose, not pressure When these four pillars work together, individuals don’t just cope—they transform. One of the metaphors that resonated strongly with the audience was the idea that many of us are living and leading in low-level energy spaces, when we were designed for more. I described this as moving from survival-level “beta rays” toward higher levels of clarity and impact. Beta represents survival mode —stress-driven, reactive, exhausted, and constantly responding to emergencies. Alpha reflects stability and focus —calmer thinking, reflection, and clearer decision-making. Theta symbolizes creativity and deep connection —innovation, vision, and problem-solving begin to flourish. Gamma represents peak performance and transformation —high-level thinking, purpose, alignment, impact, and legacy. Thriving means intentionally moving away from beta-level survival and stepping into gamma-level living and leadership—where our actions are aligned with purpose, vision, and long-term impact. I want to extend my sincere thanks to Jackie Walker for the invitation and opportunity to keynote such a powerful conference. Resilient Beyond Measure created a space where authenticity, healing, and growth were not just encouraged—they were activated. It was truly an honor to serve and connect with such an inspiring community. I was also excited to share my newest book, Stop Surviving, Start Thriving, which expands on the message of the keynote and provides practical tools to help readers move from burnout to breakthrough. The book is accompanied by a new course designed to walk participants step by step through applying the G.R.I.T. framework in real life—not just reading about it, but living it. In addition, leaders are invited to explore the G.R.I.T. Workbook for Leaders, created to support sustainable leadership, confidence, resilience, and intentional growth. If this message resonates with you, I would love to stay connected. Visit my website at www.india-white.com to learn more about my work, speaking engagements, and resources. Both Stop Surviving, Start Thriving and the G.R.I.T. Workbook for Leaders are available today! Whether you are an educator, leader, entrepreneur, or someone simply ready for more, remember this: you were never meant to just survive. With grit, vision, and intention, thriving is not only possible—it’s your calling. With gratitude and grit, Dr. India White
By India White January 14, 2026
EXCITING NEWS!! I am thrilled to share some incredible news with you all! After months of hard work and dedication, I am proud to announce the launch of my new book, "Stop Surviving, Start Thriving: A Grit Framework for Leaders." This book is designed to empower leaders like you with the insights and strategies needed to elevate your leadership journey and truly thrive in today’s challenging environment. What You’ll Discover in My Book In "Stop Surviving, Start Thriving," I delve into the grit framework that will help you harness your strengths, overcome obstacles, and lead with confidence. Whether you’re an established leader or someone just starting your journey, this book is filled with practical advice and actionable steps to make a meaningful impact. Why This Book Matters: - Transformational Insights: Learn how to shift your mindset from merely surviving to genuinely thriving in your role. - Practical Strategies: Gain access to tools and techniques that you can implement right away to enhance your leadership effectiveness. - Inspiration: Discover stories and examples that will motivate you to take your leadership to the next level. Introducing the Stop Surviving, Start Thriving Course! In addition to the book, I am thrilled to announce the launch of the Stop Surviving, Start Thriving Course! This course complements the book perfectly, providing you with an interactive experience to dive deeper into the concepts covered and gain practical tools that you can use in your daily leadership practice. What to Expect from the Course: - Interactive Learning: Engaging modules that challenge you to think critically and apply lessons to your leadership style. - Real-Life Applications: Practical exercises and discussions that make the concepts relatable and actionable. - Community Support: Join a network of like-minded individuals who are also on their journey to thrive! Where to Find the Book and Course You can grab your copy of "Stop Surviving, Start Thriving" on Amazon by following this link: Amazon Link ( https://a.co/d/c8BNlS9 ). 📖 For those eager to join the course, it's available on my website here: Stop Surviving, Start Thriving Course ( https://www.india-white.com/store/Stop-Surviving-Stop-Thriving-Online-Course-p657410057 ). 🌐 Join Me on This Transformative Journey! I am so excited about this new chapter and can’t wait for you to explore the book and course. Together, let’s stop surviving and start thriving! Your leadership journey begins now. Thank you for your continued support, and I look forward to hearing your thoughts on the book and the course! Let’s thrive together! 💥