Every human being is born with a desire to succeed, a yearning for purpose and fulfilment. Unfortunately for the vast majority of us, success has always seemed to elude us despite our best efforts to grasp it once and for all. We’ve looked online, in books, towards role models, under the bed maybe, but we just can’t seem to find answers anywhere, and we’re left with the echoing question: why can’t I succeed? Well, search no further, the answer is here… not really. That’s what we all want to hear, but if that’s how you think about success, as an answer, then you have to understand something first.
Within our ever developing world, strategies for success change almost as frequently as the people who preach them because, in essence, that is the very nature of success - impermanent and personal. The irony of your ongoing search for success is that it has always been inside of you. You, and you alone, should decide your definition of success; it can be as grand and noble as starting a company or as humble and small as taking out the trash. It all depends on you and where you find yourself at the moment. If you can’t muster up the strength to “go big” as they say, if you find yourself constantly falling short of your goals, try something smaller first, and remember, you define success. Wake up ten minutes earlier than normal. Talk to someone you haven’t spoken to in a while. Try some light exercise. Learn something new. You can build up from anywhere! You just have to get started. One small step at a time. When you begin to think of success as a marathon, rather than a sprint, it’s a lot easier to get moving, no?
But there’s more to the story. Although success is malleable, there is one crucial factor that defines a successful person; above hard work, above talent, above anything else is grit. Now, you may be asking yourself, what is grit? It’s one of those words that you can’t necessarily describe, but you’ll certainly know it when you see it. Although the dictionary likes to define grit as courage or resolve, the word didn’t really have a definition until the work of one Angela Duckworth, an American academic and psychologist for the University of Pennsylvania. In her words, grit is “sticking with your future, day in and day out, and not just for the week, not just for the month, but for years.” In other words, if you want to succeed, you have to really want it. You have to be willing to put in the work, and if you can’t put in enough, you have to learn the discipline to improve. A discipline that you can improve by simply working every day.
Like we mentioned before, success can be as small as you want, but you can’t keep it there. Yes, you can start small, but you have to keep challenging yourself to go bigger until finally, you find yourself accomplishing great things every day. But remember, success isn’t a streak. You will stumble and fail along the way. You may fail every day for an extended period of time. That uncertainty, that unknowability of where the finish line is, is incredibly difficult and scary. But, it is in that unknown where we find our true mettle. It is when we don’t know when to stop that we realize we don’t need to. No matter how many times you fail, if you can get back up and start again, that is when you’ve truly become a successful person. Once you have the mindset of a winner, that “Yes I can and I will” mentality, there is truly nothing you cannot achieve. Once you’ve passed that threshold, once you’ve eliminated all self-doubt and adopted the belief that you can and will, you, and you alone, hold the key to your success, whatever that may be.